I Can’t

From the desk of Brett Campbell

You see whenever I ask what people inside our amazing Fiit Chick VIP community, want they want to learn about; this topic pops up 80% of the time.

Mindset!

Now before you STOP reading and switch off. I get it!

Mindset is such a BORING way of putting it right? Especially when you do not fully understand the power it has over you.

I mean, how many times has someone just said. Get your mindset right and you will be fine.

If only it was that easy.

It’s like telling a golfer who is taking his last put to win a major championship.golf

Just get the ball in the hole.

When the pressure is on, boy can the simplest of tasks all of a sudden seem impossible.

Today I want to provide you with 5 questions that I ask myself on a regular basis to help control the beast.

The beast is the voice in my head that at times, tries to get me to do things that I know I shouldn’t be doing.

Why does this happen?

I have all the best intentions then BAM, the beast takes over.

Well lucky for me I now know how to control and tame the beast.

You see, the past 6 years has been an interesting and exciting journey of self-discovery; I have learnt things about myself that I never thought were possible.

I have taken on and achieved more things, helped more people than I could have ever imagined.

And I am only just getting started.

Now I am not writing this today to tell you how good I think I am, because as you know, we are always on an ever-improving journey and I am sponge ready to soak it all up.

I am here to share with you practical strategies that have worked for me and hundreds of my personal coaching clients.

Stop the story.

Seriously stop it.

The day you can look yourself in the eye and be honest with yourself is the day that you will start changing gears and your life will change for the best.

The amount of times I hear a story (excuse) for something is staggering.

Oh I ate this because I was feeling upset! WHAT!

Being upset is not a good enough reason to trick yourself into believing that it is ok to binge on a 1 liter tub of ice-cream, is it?

I didn’t go to the gym because I had a hard day at work and I am tired! WHAT!

Try looking at it like this. Be happy that you have a job and have the resources to be able to train after work in a million dollar facility with air-conditioning and music to make it feel like your night clubbing.

Ok, so I can see at this point I would have ruffled a few feathers. Which is good. This is just a real life example on your story. Your default reactions to certain situations.

The point I am trying to make here is this…

The only thing stopping you from achieving greatness is your story.

The story you run to justify your actions. The excuses you give yourself for not doing xyz. The stories you give yourself WHY YOU CANT do something.

It’s all a story.

I ran a story once. I had an excuse for everything. Oh, but it was because of xyz that this happened. Simply put I just never wanted to take responsibility.

I can date this back to childhood. I remember being told off for something I never did, but I still got the punishment for it.

So I was running that story for the majority of my teenage years.

I remember a time where I actually did mess up and I simply denied all wrong doing.i cant

I couldn’t figure out why I denied it at the time, but I went along with my story. It was my default remember. I didn’t allow time to think, I just reacted.

Years later I can now say that after working through this defult response in an in-depth process, I discovered that I was of the mindset that if I got told off for doing something when I didn’t do it. I might as well deny it when I do do something. The results will be the same anyhow.

I see a pattern with so many people who have adopted the I CANT mentality.

Their story is simply a justification as to why they cant.

Imagine having a process that could simply bypass the I CANT button and actually provide you with REAL evidence and not a default response.

I want to share with you EXACLTY how I handle these situations. And how you can handle them too.

Whenever I am confronted with a decision that makes me feel slightly uncomfortable, the type of uncomfortable that makes your body start feeling different, your stomach is unsettled type of uncomfortable. Or when I start to self doubt myself and my ability to achieve something.

I ask myself these questions.

  • Why do I believe this to be true?
  • What actual facts do I have to back this up or am simply assuming? (not using stories that are 15 years old)
  • Could I actually be wrong here?
  • What is the real truth behind this, if the FBI launched an investigation type truth?

The following question to me is by far the most important question and most certainly the question that has had the biggest impact on me.

  • Would I come to the same conclusion about someone else if they were in the same situation as me?

Repeat that again.

  • Would I come to the same conclusion about someone else if they were in the same situation as me?

What a powerful question!

For that slight moment you can allow yourself to turn into the coach.

Coach yourself as if you were coaching or giving advice to others.

It truly is amazing the power of self-coaching when it can be done right.

TIP: change your story and you will change your life.

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